Punch and Lemonade

I often hear these two life sayings:

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

And

Roll with the punches.

Personally, I find you can’t have one without the other. Every major thing that happens in my life seems both sweet and sour!

In 2017, I did not plan on buying a house, but I did. Holy crap! I most definitely was not ready for it- I hadn’t even been saving for it. The opportunity simply landed in our laps and we discovered we were just able to swing it. In the end, we determined that there was no way we could lose.img_3241

Pros: I have a house! It feels very rewarding to say I am 23 years old and married with a house.

Cons: I have my own money pit. The house itself is an expense, and then there’s everything we need to do to it, plus maintenance.

It is a major fixer upper, but on a huge piece of land for Long Island, and my husband and his father happen to be very handy (me not as much- we need to get some walls up first! I can start with Sheetrock) It is most definitely an experience, no matter what avenue we take in the future with it.

In July of 2017, I also celebrated my 1 year wedding anniversary! The wedding was supposed to be in October 2016, but as life goes I got married in July of 2016 (though we did renew our vows to share with the rest of our families in October). The anniversary was bittersweet, it brought a lot of mixed emotions and memories.

(July)

(October)

Pros: I got to marry my best friend! (a little earlier than planned)

Cons: the reason. My mom had late stage cancer, and I can’t even begin to describe the atrocity that had befallen our family of 3 for a total of 4 years as we slowly lost my mother each day both mentally and physically. A single person does not go through an illness, a family household does, though they experience different pieces of it.

My mom was really sick for 3 and a half years and took a bad turn at the end of June 2016. We had decided to get married in October of that year in the hopes that she would be able to go, but at that time it didn’t look like it. And even if she did make it to October physically, she would not make it mentally. So, my husband suggested that we get married the following week in the backyard, and on a whim we did. We surprised my mom and decorated the backyard with flowers and other decorations. It was a beautiful sight, and she got to truly experience the day with us and our closest family members- and the dog, of course.

Life really is a journey.

Unlike love, it is not patient, nor is it kind.

Life is spontaneous and has both good and bad pieces that blend together.

But the journey of life makes things like love that much more valuable.

In my almost 24 years of life I have learned to roll with the punches, and sometimes along the way, there will be some lemons with which to make lemonade.

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10 thoughts on “Punch and Lemonade

  1. Really lovely. I’m following! I lost my mom to cancer when I was 30 (and my little sister was 23). I find it a challenge to go through marriage and parenthood without that model to look up to. I rely on a lot of memories, as you do, too, I’m sure. Maybe you’d like to read a post I wrote recently that touches on a memoir I read about a couple that buys a fixer-upper–might hit home for you! https://rustbeltgirlblog.wordpress.com/2017/12/24/all-the-way-home-and-the-back-and-heart-breaking-art-of-the-diy/

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    1. Thanks for stopping by! Life is full of crazy twists and turns, I like to think I have some of my moms great instinct in me to help me through it all! I do enjoy your posts and that one was a great read 🙂

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  2. You look so much like your mom especially those eyes and the sweet smile 😊
    You looked beautiful in your marriage dress.
    This was a heart touching post. ❤
    I wish you and your husband all the very best for everything in your life together.
    🤗

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