The other night at a restaurant, my husband and I were talking about random things. We were at Applebee’s – after 10 on a Friday no less. It was packed. I used to work there, and it brought back flashbacks for sure! But what we noticed more was the various types of people that congregate there. There were couples like us, grabbing dinner after a long day, families out for some fun, friends out for drinks, and young teens getting a taste of freedom from their parents. Half-off apps holds some real power, huh?
Anyway, that last group got us thinking. It feels like both a lifetime ago and yesterday that we were 13 and meeting up with friends at Applebee’s. We deduced that it feels like yesterday because time flies, and that it feels like a lifetime because we have been through so much since then.
Then my husband asked the question – If you could go back to that age with the knowledge you have now, would you?
It’s hard to say.
You could potentially save those you love from hardship. Both my husband and I have been through a lot of illness and death.
You could go back and meet your significant other much earlier if you wanted.
You could be very, very rich. Think Back to the Future and the Almanac. You would know everything! Plus you could invest early in things like Bitcoin and choose your job knowing the future job market and what you actually like.
Just because you can fix some things, doesn’t mean other unforeseen circumstances won’t set themselves in motion instead.
Whose to say your thirteen-year-old could hand all that information? Instead of trying to make a difference, your old self might ignore it, become depressed, run away, etc. Whose to say?
Even if you successfully made all the decisions necessary to make a perfect life without other unforeseen circumstances, you probably would not be the person you are today. (So that also goes to say that if my husband and I met at 13 – whose to say we would’ve liked each other then?)
Our decision, sitting at Applebee’s watching young teens at 11pm, was…
We would not go back. The beauty of being young is the bliss and new exciting experiences – and through those experiences, you grow. We would not have lived to our fullest during those times if we had spent every moment trying to set certain things in motion and prevent others.
You live and you learn, you don’t learn and live.